Am I the only one who has ever been mistaken for a man? Ever gotten the “How can I help you, sir?” or had to correct someone over the phone, “I’m a woman.” It’s a little embarrassing for both sides really. I guess because only men are supposed to be tall, people get confused when they see a tall woman. But I’m taller than most men so should I be classified as a being all my own? (I must really be an alien after all.) It doesn’t make it any easier when you can’t find clothes to fit and have to get something 2 sizes too big, so they can’t see your womanly figure, just so it’s long enough.
It’s insulting to be perceived as unfeminine just because you’re taller than average. My dad hates it when I say I look “mannish”. He gives me an emphatic “You do not!” But of course, he has to say that, he’s my dad. I have to admit it. I have “mannish” features. Broad shoulders, long limbs, big hands and feet. But I also have more “womanly” features too.
Luckily, I don’t think I get mistaken as much as I used to even with my short haircut. I guess it’s because I’m a little curvier now than when I was younger.
One particular instance I can remember was when I was about 15 and at the hair salon. I was sitting under the dryer and an older woman sitting across from me said to the woman sitting next to me, “Your son is very handsome”. The woman next to me said,” That’s not my son and I think that’s a girl.” Umm, you think?! First off, why would a guy be sitting under the dryer? I guess she was being cautious just in case I was a boy. I just sat there acting like I didn’t hear them. What could I have said? I had no clever or biting retorts. Plus, these were older women. I didn’t really want to be mean. I guess.
Or just a week or so ago, I was walking to the train station from work and a homeless man called to me, “Excuse me, sir can I have some change?” Then I looked him in the face and I guess he realized his mistake because he got this embarrassed look on his face and motioned that I was tall. Like that made up for it. I brushed it off and kept walking. So I get to the station and this time a homeless woman said, “Sir,” I turned toward her, “Ma’am, could I have some change?” Needless to say neither of them got any change from me. Call me salty, I don’t care. But, if you wanted to ask someone for something you wouldn’t insult them first would you?
I guess this means that at first glance I look like a man but my face is feminine? I guess I feel better that my face is not “mannish” just my height is? I guess people don’t have the time to really look at people any more. But like I said before, this is the first time I have been mistaken for a man in a long time so I guess I won’t think too much of it.
So have you ever been mistaken for a man? Share your stories below. I’d love to hear from you!
Until next time,